What matters is the story behind the number.
A Question Many Parents Struggle With
Over the years, I have met many parents who arrive at an assessment uncertain about whether they are doing the right thing. They wonder if a test will help their child — or box them in.
Here is what I always tell them: a number alone does not define a child. What matters is the story behind the number.
Why Assessment Can Be Helpful
Many people think an IQ test simply tells us how "smart" a child is. In reality, a good cognitive assessment provides a much richer picture.
It helps us understand how a child thinks, solves problems, remembers information and approaches new situations. Two children can have the same overall IQ score but very different learning profiles.
The goal is not comparison. The goal is understanding.
The most meaningful moments happen when parents say, "Now I understand my child better."
❤️ What I Have Learnt From My Assessment Room
"One of the most meaningful moments in my work happens when parents say, 'Now I understand my child better.' Sometimes an assessment confirms what parents already suspected. At other times, it reveals something unexpected."
"I have assessed children who were thought to be careless, unmotivated or difficult, only to discover that they were highly capable children whose needs were not fully understood. I have also worked with children whose high ability masked challenges such as attention difficulties, learning differences or emotional struggles."
"This is why looking at the whole child matters. Giftedness is only one part of who a child is."
When Should Parents Consider an Assessment?
Parents may consider an assessment when:
- Clearly ahead of peers: A child appears significantly ahead of peers in reasoning or learning.
- Ability–performance mismatch: There is a mismatch between ability and school performance.
- Boredom and frustration: A child seems bored, frustrated or insufficiently challenged.
- Strengths and struggles together: Parents or teachers suspect both strengths and learning difficulties.
- Decisions ahead: Decisions about educational support or enrichment need to be made.
However, assessment is not necessary for every bright child. Many children thrive simply because their curiosity is nurtured and their learning needs are met.
Myth vs Reality
❌ "An IQ score tells you everything you need to know about a child"
It's tempting to treat a single number as the full verdict on a child's potential — the higher the score, the brighter the future. But children are far more than what one test can capture.
✓ The Real Truth
An IQ score is only one piece of information. Understanding motivation, personality, creativity, emotional development and environment is equally important.
📚 Want to Learn More?
- National Association for Gifted Children (NAGC)
- Davidson Institute
- The International Gifted Consortium
- The Secret to Raising a Smarter Child — Dr. Inderbir Kaur Sandhu (2019)
Part of the series Observations on Giftedness: Conversations with Parents
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